He is your husband for Christ sake

Does It Mean All Men That Cheat On Their Wives Don't Truly Love Their Wives Or What?
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I received a message from a married woman yesternight asking me that question. The message read thus :
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Good evening
Please I have a question to ask and you can also post it but please don't include my name because my husband is also a friend here too. The question is, does it mean all men that cheat on their wives don't truly love their wives or what? I mean any form of cheating, either on social media making love to them.
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I have written something similar to this before but am gonna talk on it again now but before I answer her question, I will want to use my personal story to illustrate first. Someone is saying why do you keep telling us your story, don't you have a secret. I do and I can't tell you all my story cos some are terrible but like they do say, experience is the best teacher and I love people learning from my personal story. 
Now let's start. 
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I remember something like this has come up before too when I visit one of my very close friends. She has a room mate and that her room mate boyfriend cheated on her and we discussed it that day. 
Now my story is this. 
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This same Telemony that you all know is a player before. I have dated 4 ladies at the same time before. But their was a time I had a lady I was very serious with, everybody that is very close to me know that I love her and am very serious about her but do you know that still didn't stop me from cheating on her and she didn't know for years. You are asking that how didn't she know for years, she can never know cos am not a player, am the coach, I dictate the game. 
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Though some of my male friends knew I was cheating on her but like you know, guys always keep their secrets. Everything was going on smoothly till one day that I went to her house but I forgot to delete the most implicating message on my phone. She read it and didn't say anything, she even cooked for me and I ate, so the next day she was asking me some questions and that was when I knew something is wrong somewhere but stupid me is still lying o. Now out of all her questions, this is the biggest. She said Busayo, why are you cheating on me? I was speechless cos I don't even know why I was doing it. It's not like this lady is doing something bad or maybe I was tired of her then or maybe I didn't love her again. I still love her but I was cheating on her with no reason. 
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What is the essence of all this? 
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Ask guys/men why some of them cheat and they won't have tangible reason, some don't even have any reason, they are just doing it for fun and that doesn't mean they don't love their wives. 
I remember my girl has cheated on me too before and she confess later but she was surprised that I didn't shout or get angry, she didn't know why but I see it as a mistake and she may do it just for fun cos have done it before too. Instead of shouting, I asked her why did you do it, she gave a reason and I worked on it. She even love me more after then. Amebo, you wanna know the reason, I won't tell you cos it's too personal.
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Now to answer the woman's question, it does not mean her husband does not love her again or something. If you read her message again, you will discover that she has read her husband's chat to discover it. Am not blaming you ma cos you have the right to check. But if am to guess, your husband is the naughty type and maybe you are not giving him that naughty talk. He is your husband for Christ sake, talk dirty with him, flirt with him and you will see the changes and he won't even have time for all those girls again. 
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Some others may not be like this but when you catch your husband cheating on you, don't conclude that maybe he doesn't love you again, many men love their wives but yet still cheat on them. And please don't make the mistake of not letting him know that you know about it, let him know but instead of shouting or doing something stupid, ask him why he is doing it and watch the magic unfolding. Let it be when he is relaxing, after a delicious meal preferably and mind your tone of saying it, use a soft voice not because you are a fool but because you know what you are after, believe me, he will sober and confess and also apologize but when you know why, please work on it to get your man back. Divorce is not the solution in this case. 
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Ming you, this post is applicable to both gender. If you are a man too and your woman is cheating on you, you can use the same strategy and believe me, you will see the changes.
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Note: This post is not encouraging cheating in any form but rather how to handle it. 
Wait, someone is saying can the relationship and the love between them still be the same after the cheating. The person will surely be hurt but your motive is to safe your marriage. Forgive and forget for the sake of your marriage and don't forget that we all deserve a second chance.